Transitions Are Tough, But Your Story Wouldn't Be The Same Without Them
It’s 1:09 a.m. and I’m laying in bed, mind racing 73 mph and stomach singing whatever song it has decided upon tonight. Life is going...honestly, I don’t even have a word. That doesn’t mean it’s going good or bad or indifferent, there are just so many things happening. Some amazing things are coming up - I’m running a marathon and going to Barcelona. Then there are other things taking up real estate in my world - health hiccups, unsettled plans, and other creepy crawly (no no, no more mice) blehs. Not very eloquent, I know. But you understand what I’m saying?
So many feelings. I’m literally the Grinch.
Times of transition are difficult. I've gone through numerous transitions in the last few years - high school to college, college to post-grad in Oregon, and Oregon to New York. A year out of college and my life does not feel any more settled than it did when I walked across the stage to receive my diploma.
I don't believe that's because I've done something inherently wrong. The fact that I move at 110 mph and am, yet again, moving apartments probably doesn't help. Maybe, it's due to the fact that transitions take time. As much as I'd like to snap my fingers, twitch my ears, or fall into a hole with a genie in a bottle, I can't speed up a timeline and have my transitions complete with a bow on top. I rarely even see the timeline. Transitions just need you to progress. Keep calm, that sort of mindset.
I'm an English nerd. Most of you didn't need me to tell you that - you've experienced my grammatical correctness, firsthand. When I hear transition, I think words: and, also, then, etc. Did you know there are approximately 200 transition words in the English language?
Before you freak out, I'm not suggesting you're about to partake on the journey of 200 transitions. If your life is a novel (hey, it could be one day), you don't see all 200 transitions lined up like a firing squad. That would kill the story, lose the reader, and just flat-out suck. Yes? Yes.
But throughout that novel, you do need those different transitions at different points of your story. Transitions add to existing thoughts, maturing the characters and the plot's development. Without transitions, you have preliminary details with no real depth.
Wow, that analogy worked so much better than I thought it was going to.
I'm not sitting here in my little Brooklyn apartment telling you to jump for joy and celebrate your transitions. No one celebrates the "ands" of the sentence. But we do celebrate what comes after that "and." Or maybe we don't - maybe what comes after the "and" is a tough love, growing stage of your life. It sure could be. But one way or the other, that "and" is crucial to your future.
As you head through this transition of your life, or the next one if you're the lucky dog that's fairly settled right now, take a deep breath and look past the "and." Work your tail off to make that next phrase in your story epic. Understand the necessity of your current "and."