Picking Peaches: Friendship
You've probably seen a Pinterest quote that goes a little bit like this: "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach on the tree, and there's still going to be someone who doesn't like peaches." Whatever sweet grandma (or 13-year-old hipster) said this had a point -- sometimes there's nothing you can do about who likes you and who doesn't.
I was thinking the other day about this quote, recognizing that while not everyone likes peaches, some stop at the bottom of the tree, taking the easy way out, specifically in friendships. This is not to say that a peach on a lower branch is not a stellar individual -- it just means they don't mesh with you as well as those peaches that take a little more effort to get to.
Do you do this? Do you make friends with the "easiest" people? Or maybe you make friends with the individuals that will help satisfy your surface needs -- will they make you more popular, get you into a fun social circle, or throw a stellar wine night when you need it? Are you guilty of these easy friendships? If you are, it's not bad -- not all of our friendships can dive deep below the water's surface. Yet what is most important is that you make it a habit to climb the tree, reaching for the peaches that are at the top. You can have all the peaches you want, mixing up the level of ease, but what's life without a few top branch peaches?
Those top peaches are symbolically going to push you. When I think of my top peaches, they're the friends that I know will keep me accountable spiritually, having hard conversations that friendships without the stronger roots would not even approach. They're the most fulfilling friendships, ones that I know won't jump ship when life gets messy. The effort it took to create those friendships -- the foundation that was laid -- set the friendship up for success. Those peaches are here to stay.
Next time you go peach picking, think about where your life is. Think about what your life needs -- not the fun afternoon that you want, but the fun afternoon that is full of the deep, intimacy that only a top tier friend can provide.
All of your friendships will lie somewhere different on the friendship continuum. You need people at all the stops along the way. Yes, keep your social pals and your study buddies, but don't leave a hole in at the far end of the friendship continuum. If your friendship basket is void of top branch peaches, you have some picking to do.