Don't Follow Someone Else's Timeline
Within a majority of my core, Communications classes in college, I've had to analyze the Agenda Setting Theory. This basically states that the media tells individuals what to think about. Not what to think, but what to think about. Companies use this to put their name on the public's horizon, creeping into the minds of their consumers.
We've all been affected by this, whether we'd like to admit it or not. We've all looked through the different media channels we're immersed in and retained certain ideas. Even if it's not intentional, our own friends, our family even, have set agendas of our thought processes. Through the images we see, we form realities. Through those realities, we form our working definition of the "good" in life. Ah, she looks fabulous in that sundress - that's good. Wow, they're engaged? Good! Everyone is going vegan?! Good!
There is a Ted talk from model Cameron Russell that discusses how we shape our good. She talks about how winning the genetic lottery allowed her to live a "good" life; she has opportunity, the dream body of many women, and has it fairly easy. Yet she exposes the truth that many of her model peers are some of the most unhappy, insecure women she knows. The "good" that has been shaped covers up the reality of what it really is. Though society claims that size 0 is good, the women who meet it may argue that there are bad aspects to their lives.
This goes to show that just because society claims something to be true does not mean it holds any merit. Doesn't our world, specifically the media of others, often direct our thoughts and define our good? In reality, the good of those young lovebirds getting married in college may be good, but that does not mean your singleness is bad. Do not be tempted to fall into thinking that the timelines of other's need to match your timeline, or vice versus.
I see this every day on my college campus. My peers and I are quick to judge how we're doing based off what we see others doing. The amount of motivated, young people that think they are not "doing well" because they do not have the same relationship, job, or scholastic involvement at the same times that their peers do is disheartening. You are unique -- so is your timeline! If I had the same timeline that some of my friends did, I would be a train wreck! While it's tempting to become distracted from your uniqueness, it is far healthier to appreciate the unique factors of your life and your timeline. Do not let media, peers, or that nosey neighbor with a lot to say dictate what you deem to be good.